Why Spanking Your Kids Is NOT Child Abuse – Or Is It?

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We live in a day and age where a huge chuck of our young people are fully indoctrinated with an entitlement mentality and when they don’t get what they want they do such things as riot.

I believe a big reason, besides school indoctrination, is lazy parenting that shows no consequences.

The Bible is clear. “Spare the rod and spoil the child.”

Don’t you agree? Not child abuse mind you, just pure old fashioned love driven spanking. Where the parent holds the child afterward, tells them why and how much they are loved, and explains the concept of consequences.

There are counter-versions, though, that say that spanking does not work.

1.  The most recurring problem results from infrequent, whimsical discipline.  Half the time the child is not disciplined for a particular act of defiance; the other half he is.  Children need to know the certainty of justice. If there is a chance of beating the system, some will repeatedly try it.

2.  The child may be more strong-willed than the parent, and they both know it.  If he can outlast a temporary conflict, he has won a major battle, eliminating discipline as a tool in the parent’s repertoire.  The strongest of youngsters are tough enough to comprehend, intuitively, that the spanking must not be allowed to succeed.  Thus, they stiffen their necks and gut it out.  The solution is to outlast him and win, even if it takes a few rounds.  The experience will be painful for both participants, but the benefits will come tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow.

3.  The parent suddenly employs a form of discipline after doing nothing for a year or two prior to that time.  It takes a child a while to respond to a new procedure, and parents might get discouraged during the adjustment period.  But take heart in knowing that discipline will be effective over time if consistently applied.

4.  The spanking may be too gentle. If it doesn’t hurt it isn’t worth avoiding next time.  A slap with the hand on the bottom of a multi-diapered thirty-month old is not a deterrent to anything.  While being careful not to go too far, you should ensure he feels the message.

5.  For a few children, this technique is simply not appropriate.  The neurologically handicapped child who is hyperactive, for example, may be made more wild and unmanageable by corporal punishment.  The child who has been abused may identify loving discipline with the hatred of the past.  And, the very sensitive child might need a different approach.  Once more, there is no substitute for knowledge and understanding of a particular boy or girl.

(via: I Have The Truth)



(via: I Have The Truth)

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